A few words about nursery battles


I suddenly have a child who no longer wants to go to nursery and I don't know what to do about it.

Dottie goes to a brilliant local nursery, the staff are lovely and I trust them implicitly.  Elvia went to the same one, and absolutely loved it, when she started school we had to go back and visit!  Dottie on the other hand... It started a couple of months back, with her asking each morning whether it was nursery and if I said yes, she would reply that she didn't want to go.  But saying that, she would happily trot along once it came time to leave the house, and would walk in without so much as a backward glance.  Despite her protests, I therefore had no reason to doubt that she wasn't happy.

Next, came slightly more resistance, the "I don't want to go" continuing after we left the house, but again, she was absolutely fine on arrival.  And when I collected her she was, and still is, completely engrossed in activities.

But now, things have progressed to full on tears, refusal to let go of me and her practically having to be pulled off so that I can leave.  It is pretty heart-breaking and I know that I am not the first parent to go through this, I am sure there are plenty of you that can relate.

I have asked her why she doesn't want to go, but she can't seem to provide an explanation, understandable at just aged three.  I'm not sure if something has happened to upset her or whether she has just had enough.  And I know that no one can answer that question for me, but I wanted to post because perhaps someone can give me some advice on the best way to deal with it.  I am at a loss, after nine years of parenting, I have another new challenge!

Emma x